Niamh was close to leaving Cork. The rent had climbed, her day job in marketing was going nowhere, and the ceramics business she had planned for years still lived in a notebook. This is the story of how one honest conversation on HeySugarDaddy changed that.
A Northside flat and a notebook full of plans
Niamh is 28 and grew up in Ballincollig. By her mid-twenties she was renting a small flat on the Northside, a short walk below the Shandon Bells, and working full time for a marketing agency off South Mall. The job paid the bills, just about. What it didn’t do was leave any room for the thing she actually cared about.
“I’d been throwing pots since a night class at the Crawford,” she says. “Every weekend I was at a shared studio, and every Sunday night I’d be doing the maths on whether I could ever afford to go out on my own. The answer was always no.”
The numbers were simple and brutal. A kiln, a small unit, a stall at a craft fair or two, and enough money to live on for the first six months. Between rent and the cost of living in Cork, saving that much felt impossible. Friends had already moved to Dublin or Melbourne. She was starting to think she would follow them.
Why she tried sugar dating
A friend from her old course had mentioned sugar dating over coffee on Oliver Plunkett Street. Niamh’s first reaction was a laugh. Her second, a few weeks later, was curiosity.
“What struck me was that it was honest,” she says. “Normal dating apps, nobody says what they want. On a sugar dating site you’re upfront from the first message. I liked that.”
She looked at a few sites and chose HeySugarDaddy for two reasons. It was free for women, so there was nothing to lose by trying it. And every Sugar Daddy has to pass ID verification before he can message anyone, which mattered to her more than anything else.
“Cork is a small city,” she says. “You bump into people you know on Patrick Street every single day. I needed to know the men I was talking to were real, and I needed to be in control of who saw my profile.”
Writing a profile that said what she wanted
Niamh’s profile didn’t lead with photos. It led with her plan. She wrote that she was a ceramicist working a day job, that she wanted to launch her own studio within a year, and that she was looking for someone established who could offer guidance as much as generosity.
“I was specific,” she says. “I said I wanted mentorship, good conversation and someone who’d be straight with me. I figured the right person would respond to that, and the wrong ones would scroll past.”
She was right. Most of the messages that came in were polite and short. One was different.
Meeting Martin
Martin is in his early fifties and owns a logistics business near Little Island. He had built it from one van, which was the first thing he told her, and the second was that her business plan needed work.
“He didn’t flatter me,” Niamh says, laughing. “He read my profile and asked how I was pricing my pieces. Then he asked what my margins were. I didn’t know. That was the moment I thought, OK, this man is actually useful.”
They messaged on the platform for a couple of weeks and then had a video call before deciding to meet. Their first date was afternoon tea at Hayfield Manor, close to the university. Public, relaxed, easy to leave if it didn’t click.
It clicked. They talked for three hours, mostly about business.
An arrangement built around a goal
Within a month they had agreed an arrangement that suited them both. They would meet a couple of times a month for dinner or a day out. He would contribute a monthly allowance, and she would put a fixed share of it straight into a studio savings account. The rest gave her breathing room on rent.
“That was my idea, not his,” she says. “I wanted it to be tied to something. Every month I could see the studio fund growing, and I could see my plan getting sharper because he kept asking hard questions.”
Their dates became a tour of the city she’d been ready to leave. Dinner at Café Paradiso on Lancaster Quay. Long walks along the Marina towards Blackrock Castle. A Saturday browsing the English Market, where Martin pointed out which traders had started with one stall. A weekend in Kinsale, with seafood by the harbour and a walk out to Charles Fort.
“I’d lived in Cork my whole life and never been inside half these places,” Niamh says. “It made me fall back in love with the city. That sounds soppy, but it’s true.”
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The mentorship that mattered most
The money helped. Niamh is clear that it wasn’t the most valuable part.
Martin introduced her to his accountant, who helped her register as a sole trader and set up her books properly. He talked her out of signing a lease on an expensive unit in the city centre and towards a shared workshop in Blackpool with lower rent and room to grow. When she wanted to undercut everyone at her first craft fair, he talked her out of that too.
“He said, if you price like a hobby, people treat you like a hobby,” she remembers. “I put my prices up by a third. I sold out anyway.”
He also never pushed for more than they had agreed. “There was never any pressure,” she says. “We both knew what this was, and we were both happy with it. That’s the part people don’t believe until they’ve done it.”
Where Niamh is now
Eleven months after joining HeySugarDaddy, Niamh handed in her notice at the agency. Her studio is in that shared workshop in Blackpool. Her kiln, bought with the fund she built, runs three days a week. She sells through her own website, at markets in Cork and Kinsale, and to two cafés in the city who use her mugs.
She and Martin still meet, though less often now that her diary is full. “He’s someone I’ll always ring when I’ve a decision to make,” she says. “I didn’t expect that when I signed up.”
She’s also stayed in Cork. Her Northside flat has been swapped for a bigger one in Sunday’s Well, with a view across the Lee.
Niamh’s advice for sugar babies in Cork
We asked Niamh what she’d tell any woman in Cork thinking about sugar dating. Here’s what she said:
- Know your goal before you join. “Write down what you actually want. Money for what? Mentorship in what? It changes who you attract.”
- Put it in your profile. “Being specific is a filter. The right men respond to it.”
- Stay on the platform at first. “Message on HeySugarDaddy and do a video call before you swap numbers or meet.”
- Meet somewhere public. “A hotel bar or restaurant in town. Get your own taxi home. Tell a friend where you are.”
- Agree the terms out loud. “Talk about expectations early so nobody’s guessing. If someone won’t have that conversation, that tells you everything.”
- Walk away if it feels wrong. “You can block or report anyone, any time. Don’t feel you owe anybody your time.”
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Every arrangement is different. Some sugar babies want travel and experiences, some want help with rent, and some, like Niamh, want someone in their corner while they build something of their own. What they share is honesty about what they want, and the freedom to set their own terms.
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